A feminist who likes to fuck

"I'm a feminist who likes to fuck." That's how I sometimes respond to people when they contact me. See if they can really handle me. No that doesn't mean I'll fuck anyone. No that doesn't mean, I want you to tell me you want to fuck me "hard" or "all night." I also don't want you to tell me you want to "eat my pussy." Let's make this experience fun. Let's make this experience unique. Let's get EACH OTHER off. Not just you. I don't want to be in the porn you're thinkin' we're going to act out. Almost all of the sex I've seen in porn has not looked very erotic. Those are the kinds of things I think about with more than half of the responses I get. But it's not a big deal. I get about 5 emails every day. That ends up being about 35 a week. Of those, there might be ONE that I'm willing to pursue. What do I base my decisions on? First is looks. What can I say. This is my time to be a extravagent slut. I might as well fuck some guys who get me excited. Looks are not the only thing though. You can look really good but say something either boring or offensive and I won't respond. Well. Unless you're really hot. But then I have to think about how excrutiating it would be to interact with you. Even sexual affairs must only be about 10-20% actual sex. You talk some before and after. You do the obligatory dinner or drinks. Well at least at the beginning. Then it can shift into bootie call mode. I IM'd Republican boy at 11 pm and told him to come over and take a bath with me. It was the most delicous moment ever. He'd just been working on his car and had grease on his face. Oh my god. it was so awesome. We got clean together and then got really really dirty. Mmmmmmm. Oh by the way. I have found myself saying mmmmmmm more in the last four months than ever. It's a part of online IM flirting. It is just so useful for so many contexts. And it only requires one hand!

The odds

The odds are in my favor. In the state where I live, there are 60,000 + men with profiles and about 6,000 women. That’s a 10 to 1 ratio for those interested. That is one reason why I’ve been able to attract so much attention. I have to say. I do like these odds! Too bad at least 99% on the site are un-dateable, for one reason or another. Once the age range is taken into account that probably leaves me with about 40,000. One percent of that is 40. And that number seems about right. I think I'd be able to fuck around forty people on this site.

Right now I'm at eight.

This unevenness really makes me approach the site differently. I can be picky, based on whatever standards I want, and know that I will get more responses the next day. If someone blows me off, or I do the same, it is no big deal because there are just so many damn people to choose from. Oh, and though there's 60,000 in the state, the bulk of these people are in the town that I'm in. For inquiring minds, you can probably figure out the state I'm in pretty easily.

Introducing AFF

I “found” adult friend finder after a long, sex-dry spell I’d had after moving to a new town. I was starting to think that I was never going to have sex again and was really becoming concerned about it. But more than that, I had NEEDS. I still do.

I really didn’t want to have sex alone again. And believe me, I have no qualms with masturbation. In fact, my very best orgasms have occurred at my hand. But I needed some company. After googling "sex chat" the first site that came up was Adult Friend Finder or “AFF” for those in the know.

At first I thought I would just see if I could enter the chat room and do what I had planned to do. Have online sex. I’d never done that before and I thought it could be an interesting experience. But when I got on, I thought, wow, this is kind of perfect. People are just honest about what they want and ready to cut to the chase. Being a no bullshit kind of person, I thought it would be fun to post something and see who responded. I had taken pics of myself naked before because just taking the pics turns me on. Countless evenings I’ve spent making home porn and masturbating. I know. Narcissist. With AFF I could add exhibitionism to my narcissism.

Anyway, I didn’t really like any pics I had. But I did have one shot of my back that I thought was kind of nice (see photo gallery). My first profile text, now gone into the abyss, stated something like this:

“I’m new to this site and have never done anything like this before. But, I’m really horny and ready to hook up."

Second paragraph said something like:

"I tend to like artsy guys and those who are alternative and feel sort of alienated from the rest of the world. Is that you? If so. Write me.”

Later I added a comment about how I’d seen a lot of dicks on this site and it was starting to really just become boring. I said that I really had a thing for backs and that I didn’t really need, or want, to see a picture of anyone’s dick.

However, this site is full of dicks, literally and figuratively. I’d say a good 90% of the guys on the site have pics of their dicks. And some of them are really not very flattering. I think they just get off on the idea of other people looking at their dicks. I saw a white guy with what appeared to be a black dick. A dick that bent at almost a 90 degree angle. A dick that had a pair of reading glasses cleverly placed above it (to look like a nose). And, finally, the bottom of the barrel was a dick that had been shaped into what looked like a pile of shit. I called that one "poo-dick" (see photo gallery).

So. Within 24 hours I got a ton of responses. This was with ONE picture of my back. I had already decided to post more daring shots of full frontal nudity. After that I got something like 50 emails in a day. None of them were particularly intriguing and though I’d said I didn’t really want to see people’s dicks, I mostly did. It’s like a perpetual series of endless flashing. I have to say that it’s not that fun looking at detached penises. Dicks are not usually that attractive as far as I’m concerned. I like the way they feel, in me, on me, or beside me. But visually I just don’t like them that much.

I did get some interesting responses though. A coupe of people asked if I’d like to be an escort. A couple guys just straight up asked me if I wanted to meet and fuck in the next hour. I really don’t understand how people do that. I mean, you at least have to meet me and liquor me up a little bit before I’m going to fuck you if you’re a stranger. And one did. A 26-year-old-pilot-rocket scientist-Republican. I kid you not!

I am a dedicated, practicing liberal. I have an activist job. I do activist things. I am a feminist, an environmentalist, and practically a socialist who HATES Republicans. I don’t just hate them in the abstract. I hate them personally because I feel that they are a personal affront to me and all women and they are destructive to the planet and society.

This rich brat physicist boy who contacted me had “BobDole” in his title. I was so turned off. But then. Ahhh. He had a picture of his chest. I have a weakness for chests. Chests and backs. And goddamn did that boy have a nice chest. He looked pretty cute too. I hadn’t had sex in like, a year and a half, and he was persistent in his pursuit of me. I asked if he was Republican. He said, well, I don’t like taxes and I like making money. Great. A simplistic Republican even. We’re going to have a GREAT time. But he kept asking me to go have a drink and said, what could it hurt.

I was feeling another kind of hurt. That longing hurt people have when they haven’t been touched right in a long time. I also justified it in many other self-serving ways. I said to myself., this will make me more open-minded and will expand my horizons. I said, I am living in a place that I don’t want to be and I’m going to have to make some adjustments to the new situation. There appeared (and still appears) to be none of my usual suspects for dates here. The progressive, intellectual, handsome in a dorky-way, types.

So I fucked him, despite myself (for a full account, see “Republican boy”). I will post my thoughts on AFF, the people who've contacted me, and various "encounters" I've had. I hope you enjoy it!